All pregnant women will give birth - one way or another

You are never pregnant forever and aren’t you glad of that.
The operative part of the title is actually ‘one way or another.’ You are unique; your life is full of your life and the choices about birth, centres around your life. No one is the same. Everyone is different, but we have much more in common than we do differences.

There are only two ways to give birth: surgical delivery (Cesarean) and out from the birth canal (the historic way). Unfortunately some pregnancies do end with a miscarriage.

Whichever way you give birth, your body is preparing for birth from 24 weeks onward. It makes common sense that we prepare our pregnant body for birth and learn good birthing skills. There are two reasons. Firstly, you can totally enjoy preparing for birth. It doesn’t happen frequently and it’s such a special time. Enjoy, enjoy and enjoy. This also brings you closer to your baby and partner and brings your partner closer to your pregnancy.

Secondly, birth is such an important and big event in Life that you really should be working with your baby’s efforts during the birth whether it’s the new or historic way.

Birth is full of excitement. Birth is a process for both the woman and the baby. At first, the woman provides a space for the baby to grow and then the baby is working to come out of the woman’s body and that body is responding to the baby’s work.

This is a wonderful time to use birth skills such as Directed Breathing, the Pelvic Clock or Deep Touch Relaxation. When these skills are learned by you and your partner, you work together as a family, which is about to become a larger family. Enjoy the time together. You can use your birth skills and coaching skills side by side, at every moment of each contraction or during the surgery and recovery, if you have a cesarean delivery.

By using your birth skills you get to impress in your memory what you have done for yourself in whatever kind of birth you have. The birth memories you create have less to do with what happens to you than what you did for yourself. We can embrace what we share as human beings, which is great. This means we can appreciate our uniqueness and yet feel connected to the past and future longevity of our species.

When you use your birth skills you will increase the likelihood of a positive birth experience. You’ll feel competent, capable and confident about your role in the birth of your baby. That’s a wonderful feeling no one can take away from you.

If you want to know more about Directed Breathing, the Pelvic Clock or Deep Touch Relaxation, Kate’s Cat, Hip Lift and Sacral Manoeuvre then visit http://www.birthingbetter.com.

Learn more about The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better®, the only childbirth preparation course that focuses entirely on birth skills for mothers and fathers for ALL births.

Wintergreen is a Trustee to Common Knowledge Trust  http://www.commonknowledgetrust.com which produces The Pink Kit. She is a childbirth communicator and communicates on the societal benefits of growing a skilled birthing population.