Birthing Better

Sadly over the past 40 years there has been too much focus on the type of birth 'you' have rather than focusing on what you can do to work with your baby's journey to be born. 

In other words we've shifted the focus to 'outcome' rather than the fact you are giving birth. Once you change your mindset then you change your life. Listen to this audio.

Birthing Better with The Pink Kit Method® comes from ordinary families ... not professionals and evolved in the early 1970s! We wanted skills so we could be involved with our child's birthing process no matter what. 

It's quite simple ... you are pregnant and you will give birth. This means you and your partner should enjoy taking time during your pregnancy to prepare your pregnant body to become a birthing body no matter how your baby is going to be born. This is your relationship to each other and your baby.

Let's repeat this ... preparing for your baby's birth together is a relationship issue no matter how your baby is going to be born. 

Every pregnant body is preparing to labor so you receive all the same hormonal signals as a woman who will.

Enjoy preparing for your baby's birth! Become skilled together.

Once you change your mindset and invest yourself in your child's birth then it's natural to learn skills to use on the day your baby is born. Having a non-laboring Cesarean still takes time. It's a process just as going into labor.

The day before you go to hospital is a good time to put yourselves into 'the labor' mode. You probably have Braxton-Hicks contractions and can use the skills just like a woman who will eventually go into active labor. 

On the way to hospital 

This is your 'labor'. This is the time to work together to set your experience. You'll have the same excitement and anxiety that happens when you go into active labor. This journey takes time and together you can experience your baby's process to be born.

While being prepped

This is your 'transition'. This can be a tough time if you are separated from your partner. However, you aren't separated from your baby so continue to use your birth skills. Doing so keeps you focused, relaxed, involved and empowered.

During the Cesarean delivery

This is your baby's birth. Doing a Cesarean and stitching you up takes time. It's an activity just as a vaginal birth is. Continue to use your skills together as a commitment to your family and your baby. 

Hopefully you'll 'get' this. You are having a baby. Don't let anyone tell you you can't be skilled or shouldn't bother. This is your pregnancy, your family, your baby's birth. Having a non-laboring Cesarean because of medical issues even if you want a vbac is not the worse thing in the world. Life will be full of challenges. Having and using skills makes all the difference.

One more thing

There are actually many, many Pink Kit families who have been in your situation. Quite a number of them have negotiated with their doctor to 'labor' for a while prior to the surgical birth. There are health issues that might require a surgical birth yet it's fine to labor. We've put so much focus on 'vaginal' birth but you have to labor to get there. As one woman said after she had labored for 8 hours for her planned Cesarean ... 'no one can tell me I didn't delivery my baby'. 

Maybe we need to change the phrase from vbac to LAC.